12 April 2020
The concept of surrender first captivated my attention ten years ago during a birthing class.
In the class the notion of surrender was raised in relation to the fear women often experience during labour. The basic idea was that rather than giving way to the pain and discomfort of labour you surrender to, give in to what your body is doing in labour.
You can surrender to the process your body is engaged in, you can give control back over to your body with confidence, because although labour is not comfortable, although it is hard, your body in labour is usually trustworthy and “knows” what it is doing and, most importantly, your body can usually birth your baby so much more easily if you are not afraid, if indeed, you are relaxed.
For me, grasping hold of surrender in labour meant acknowledging on some level that the pain and hard work of labour has a very good purpose, that being to bring forth new life into the world. This did indeed help both myself and my husband considerably as I laboured with each of our children.
And so, in the days after my post last week reflecting on agency and control I found myself fixated again on this concept of surrender.
In this time of global crisis and tragedy, I am profoundly grateful to be a situation where we are safe and well catered for. Social distancing is hard but it could be so much worse for myself and my family and friends.
Even so, I’ve been pretty stressed with the changes, in particular, with the pressures of all being at home together for weeks on end. Man, it is tense and exhausting sometimes.
Which brings me back to surrender. This week I found myself beginning to wonder, rather than going around in circles with the stress, and the frustration and the “It’s too hard! I can’t do it!” …what if I just surrendered to it all?
I don’t mean give in so much as refusing to give up. What if I resisted the temptation to panic and instead decided to trust that come what may, all will be well.
What if I did not give way to fear? What if I accepted the situation for what it is and chose to trust and believe that these hard times and challenges are not without purposes which may be hidden but are good and which refine and transform me as I trust my Creator in all things?
What if I did that?